On Exhaling, Yoga, And My Self-Care Royalty Status
By Kristine Kaoverii Weber | November 12, 2020
I don’t know about you, but I kinda feel like I’ve been holding my breath since March.
I exhaled last Saturday and I was surprised by what happened next. I thought I was humming along just-fine-thank-you-very-much but what I discovered is that I was lugging around a lot more stress than I had realized.
Suddenly I felt tired. Really tired. I stumbled through the day, went to bed at 7, woke up for a bit and drank a cup of ginger tea, and then crashed again until morning.
Feeling so deeply tired made me stop and reflect on the extraordinary stress of this year and realize that, as someone who likes to think of herself the Queen of Self-Care, I have been falling a little short in my royal duties (I think I’ve been demoted to Baroness).
As I began feeling into my tiredness, I also realized that as much as I love my work, my family, and my life – I really need to prioritize self-care right now.
I used to think of yoga as a healthy habit, a lifestyle choice – something that I was very fortunate to learn about and build habits around when I was young. Before March, I thought about yoga as something I was fortunate to have the time, the knowledge, the training, the experience to regularly practice. It helps that I married a yoga enthusiast (who in his solid, Capricorn-kind-of way, is hands down the King of Consistency).
But after this year, I am seeing things differently.
I no longer think of yoga as a healthy habit. Now, it’s a lifeline.
In the U.S., self-care is all the rage these days and it’s no wonder because America, being such an individualistic culture, forces its citizens to take good care of themselves.
Except that we don’t.
As a people, we don’t take very good care of ourselves at all. We don’t have the time, the money, the wherewithal, the knowledge, etc. to take good care of ourselves. 6 out of 10 of us has at least one chronic disease, and 4 out of 10 have two or more.
I would never suggest that yoga is the ultimate answer to all these problems – they are complex and require a systems approach. But what is clear is that there is a critical need for low-risk, low-cost, person-centered, scalable self-care strategies to help people build wellness and resilience.
Yoga meets this need beautifully.
So, let’s dive a little deeper into self-care – I think sometimes it is seen as something you spend leisure time and money on, like a pedicure or a spa day (and who doesn’t love a little of that?!) But I think it’s superficial to stop there – self-care is much more than a day at the spa, or shopping, or Netflix binges, or boxed wine.
Self-care is the active participation in different domains of your life that can help you be happier, better rested, calmer, more focused, and more resilient – qualities that are in short supply these days.
I like the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) model of self-care called “The 8 Dimensions of Wellness.”
It helps me remember that there may be dimensions I’m neglecting.
For me, yoga addresses some aspect of just about every one of these dimensions.
- Physical: It’s lovely to have a practice that enhances my physical health every day and can be adapted to meet my energy levels, busyness, emotional landscape, and sleep needs.
- Intellectual: I could study this stuff for several lifetimes and only scratch the surface.
- Environmental: My practice helps me to become more aware of my environment and prioritize beauty and simplicity.
- Emotional: How many thousands of times have I’ve felt crappy, took it to my mat, and watched it transform into peace and acceptance?
- Financial: Yoga has helped me get clearer about how I earn and spend money and to look at my values and priorities and make better decisions about finances.
- Social: Most of my friends do yoga and my whole social life is pretty much built around it.
- Spiritual: Yoga strengthens my relationship to my higher power.
- Occupational: Teaching yoga is a great honor and privilege that I am incredibly grateful for.
When I prioritize making time to practice, I know that I’m tending to self-care in many of these dimensions.
There is a lot of craziness going down right now. There are many reasons to remain vigilant and to be paying close attention to what’s going on. And so, it’s more important than ever to counter the stress of all that effort with effective self-care tools like daily practice.
During the election, major news outlets like NPR, CNN, and The Wall Street Journal were all offering yoga tips to get through the stress of it all. So, yoga has clearly gone mainstream. But practicing regularly? Well that requires some attention, planning, focus and commitment.
I need to be strong right now. And that’s why I can no longer think of my yoga practice as a nice habit.
I’m getting my queenly groove back. And the Queen has an announcement to make: my yoga practice is a non-negotiable.